I birth as I live

Birth is the symbol of life.
How I birth is how I live.
How I live is how I birth.

As I know it, birth is far more than a once off event, that happens at the end of a period of nine months. My experience of birth is far more than that. It is a very symbolic and significant mirror of the way I live my everyday life. It shows up very beautifully and honestly, many of my most intimate relationships I have. Especially ones of trust, control, and openness.

Above all it shows me my relationship with myself. How comfortable I am in my own body? How much I love, appreciate and acknowledge myself and my ability as a woman ? A powerful, magnificent, beautiful human being, capable of something as profound, as being the vehicle of life.

How safe and comfortable and patient do I feel in my own space? How in tune and respectful am I of my body ?How quickly can I let go of my mind, my need to try and control a situation My need to be right. To be perfect. To prove myself.

How much do I trust? Myself, my God and my supporters?

How much fight and resistance and questioning do I put up. How much do I swim upstream against the current of life, instead of softening to the flow ? How much, analyzing, objecting and interfering do I do? How quickly do I give up? How ok am I to surrender ?

How much faith ? Blind faith do I have. In myself and my ability. This is the main question. How do I face situations of the unknown. Those scary, dark, unknown new experiences that lie ahead of me ? How good am I at LETTING Go?? Taking that leap of faith, off the cliff, not knowing where or what or how I am jumping to, yet still doing it, regardless, knowing that I will be given the wings to fly.

LETTING GO AND LETTING GOD… It is this, this experience of letting go, totally, trusting, that is the most significant part of birth that I know.

It is the resistance. The clutching on to the cliff with our raw naked finger tips. The need to question, control, hold back, that causes the pain. And this is exhausting. There is no other physical experience that embodies such a deep trust in self. And it is only in that space of letting go, of total surrender, of softness and of openness that allows your baby to be born. All the fear, the resistance, the need to control, is what causes the adrenalin. And adrenalin is what stops the progress of labour. It is the progesterone, the feel good, flowing, love making hormone that is the facilitator of birth, And it is this very essential hormone that gets released as we LET GO. It eases the flow of birth. .

There is no way to fake birth, or to hurry it on, or to make it happen. It is a process of unfolding, that happens spontaneously and very honestly inside of you.. There is no way of controlling it, and resisting it is very painful.

So let us have a very honest look at our daily lives, as we prepare for our births. Are we living from a space of love, of openness, and of joy ? Is there fear ? Uncertainty, hesitancy or doubt ? Or are we empowered, capable, strong, uplifted, alive and radiant ?

While at the same time surrendered, humble, soft and ever faithful ?

This is the gift of birth, a very honest opportunity to see how we are living life.